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Peggy Howe & Pam Howe

December 11, 1926


The Hill-Howe family would like to invite you to the

Celebration of Life Memorial for
Peggy Howe & Pam Howe
June 5th at 3:00 at our family home.


Margaret C. Howe (Peggy), 94, passed away peacefully surrounded by family on April 23, 2021, at her home in Rhinebeck, NY. She was born and raised in Poughkeepsie where her father was a co-proprietor of the Nelson House Hotel. She would reminisce about how her father coordinated the communications for FDR’s security detail when he was in residence in Hyde Park. She attended St Agnes School in Albany before entering Wellesley College from where she graduated in 1948. Her first job involved marketing for Luckey Platt and Co. Before long she was asked to host an hour-long radio show each day under the name, “Lucy Luckey”, discussing local topics of interest and specials ongoing within the store. 


The next chapter in her life began when she married Harry H. Hill Jr. in 1952 and moved to Rhinebeck. Five children were born in rapid succession but she always found time to follow her passion as an involved board member of the Children’s Home in Poughkeepsie. She was instrumental in working with the Thompson Trust to transform the old Starr Library in the village of Rhinebeck to the present-day library/community center that is enjoyed by all today. When possible, she traveled with Harry and brought back wonderful stories about the foreign lands she saw, sparking a strong curiosity in all her children to see and experience the world. 


After Harry’s untimely death in 1965, she married Clarence K Howe (Bud) in 1967. Bud, a widower had 3 children of his own, causing the combined Hill-Howe clan to grow to 8 which made for a very lively household. Bud was the site manager at the Kingston, NY, IBM facility. As such, they entertained many visiting inspirational speakers; including astronauts and Olympic gold medalists. 


Her ongoing interest and curiosity in meeting and engaging with a variety of people was constant. She was a keen listener with an uncanny memory and a wonderful sense of humor which she maintained until the very end.


Her interest in philanthropy never waned either. She was an ardent supporter of Planned Parenthood for its support of women’s health as well as many other local and national organizations supporting the environment, education and community services. She was a member of the Red Hook Golf Club and she was happily surprised by her two holes in one!


In her 70’s, Peggy was diagnosed with macular degeneration and slowly began to lose her sight and her ability to read which was very difficult as she was a voracious reader. She handled her disability with extraordinary grace. As the disease progressed, audible books became her world. She especially enjoyed historical fiction and biographies. Perhaps it is not a mere coincidence that she passed on National Book Day.


In 2019 she was one of four subjects in a film series made by the Hudson Valley Oral History Project, Peg Howe, Making Home.

She is survived by her children; Bruce Howe (Joan), Brian Howe, Anna Hill Price, Harry (Huck) Hill, Peter Hill (Joanne), Mary Hill (Carlos Rodriguez), Sarah Hill (Guillermo Fesser), and Ann May as well as her brother Peter Coughlan.  She was predeceased by Pam Howe 1/30/2021 and Lynn Howe 4/26/2018. She has 14 adoring grandchildren and 7 great-grandchildren and 1 great great grandson. 


Her family plans a private burial with a memorial celebration at her home to be announced. In lieu of flowers contributions may be made to Planned Parenthood, the Starr Library or the Community Foundation of the Hudson Valley.

Pamela Katherine Howe 

Pamela Katherine Howe left this earthly realm on January 30, 2021 with the same grace and gentleness with which she lived her life. She took leave with a full and grateful heart for the immeasurable opportunities and blessings she experienced throughout her 60 years. 

Pam was born and raised in Rhinebeck, New York, the daughter of Clarence Kennedy Howe and Margaret Mary O'Hare. She received her undergraduate degree and graduate degree respectively from Ithaca College and Springfield College. 

Her love of athletics brought her to Greensboro in the mid eighties when she accepted the position of Head Coach for the Women's Soccer and Lacrosse teams at Guilford College. Her later interest in technology, and teaching and learning led her to the academic community at UNCG where she became an Educational Technology Consultant in the School of Health and Human Sciences. Her career spanned over 20 years at the university. 

It's challenging summing up Pam: she was so much to so many. She was a loving partner to Ann May. She was a devoted daughter, bonding with her father, Bud, on the golf course, and with her mother, Peggy, enjoying hour long telephone conversations filled with laughter and tenderness. Pam's enjoyment of Ann's children and her nieces and nephews gave her sheer delight. Her curiosity about each of their lives, along with her ability to connect, and her contagious sense of humor made her loved by all. Pam treasured her seven brothers and sisters and was a committed and loyal friend. 

Pam loved home life. Food was essential, wine imperative, and good company a must. She was happiest taking a walk with Ann alongside their dogs, Tater and Toby, observing the solace of the woods and the wild signs of nature. Life was rich, an ever-present offering for the taking, and Pam was mindful of the daily presentations. 

Pam's entire family would like to express its deep gratitude to Dr. Khan for her compassionate care and love as a doctor, mentor, friend, and finally as a sister, and to Mary and Vanessa, her oncology nurses, whose affection and outrageous humor will never be forgotten. 

Due to the current pandemic, a celebration of her life will be planned later in the year. Until then, may we remember Pam's generous smile that crinkled her eyes and calmed our souls. 


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